What is Swinging?
Swinging is best defined as social and sexual intercourse with someone other than your mate, boyfriend or girlfriend, excepting the traditional one-on-one dating. It may be defined as recreational social sex. These activities may occur at a swingers club, a swingers party, a couple-to-couple encounter, a liaison or with a third person in a threesome. Though single men and women are involved, it is primarily considered a couples activity.
What is a Swing Club?
Swing clubs are any organization, formal or informal, which exists to provide swinging activities. Swing clubs exist in a variety of forms. These include Swing Clubs, Party Houses, Circles and Socials, Bars and Cocktail Lounges and Contact Services. All but the contact services may be on-premises or off-premises. Contact services work via the internet and rarely provide swing parties although they may promote group travel. Parties given by on-premises swing clubs may have from ten to a hundred or more couples. colette can see as many as two or three hundred people at some of their parties. colette is an On-Premises club....On-premises means that sexual activity occurs at the party. Off-premises swing clubs, cocktail lounges and bars help you to meet other swingers. Swinging will be elsewhere with the interested couples and singles responsible for the arrangements. The arrangements include who is to be invited, the location, date and time.
How Do We Become Members/Attend?
There's no secret handshake, no interview process, no phone calls, no anything. You can purchase your membership online or at the door! In person, just show up in person, dressed appropriately with government issued id's for everyone. You will be asked to fill out your information on our kiosks in the lobby and then proceed to one of our lovely front door attendants who will check your id's, process your application and take your fee! If you already completed your profile and membership application online before coming out just head directly to the front counter. Once in you will be observed by members of our membership committee and if there are any issues we will contact you for correction. That's it!
How Much Does It Cost?
As a private club, you will be required to obtain a membership as well as pay nightly door fees to attend our events. These costs will vary depending on your classification, couples, single female or single male. As well as the term of the membership, annual, six-month, three-month or monthly! Event prices are based on the night you attend as well as the event, some special events are higher. All these prices can be seen by looking at the particular event flyer you wish to attend on our Monthly Calendar. Membership prices can be seen there as well as on the Membership page!
What Does BYOB Mean?
Like most all on-premise swinger clubs, colette is BYOB for legal reasons. What that means is that you Bring Your Own Booze! You can bring in a small cooler that can be safely stowed under your table or chair out of everyone's way. Please bring enough ice for your beer as we may charge for ice bucket setups on busier nights and may be limited! We do provide all the glassware, lemons, limes, cherries, etc.. Mixers like sodas, tonic water, club soda Topo Chico, bottled water, energy drinks including our exclusive Sum Poosie, are all available at a small charge. You will not be allowed to bring in those that we offer at our bar.
Why can't we use our phones inside the club?
Today all cell phones have cameras and recording devices on them and given the nature of our club you will encounter all sorts of people from all walks of life in various stages of undress and sexual activity. Many of these people are concerned about their privacy and discretion inside the club and therefore would not want to have their pictures turn up someplace it's not supposed to be! Whether or not you intended to have them in your picture or just caught them unsuspecting in the background we can't have that. So, please step out to the lobby to answer or use your phone. Please note that we will remind you only once if you are caught using your phone inside the club. If you are caught again you will be asked to leave without a refund, so please respect this rule!
We develop an appetite after sex, do y'all have food available?
colette presents the Coochie Cafe! A recently expanded and better-equipped kitchen offers more food choices and now has a larger and tastier menu. Just click here to see our latest COOCHIE CAFE MENU!
Do we have to create an online profile to join the club?
The short answer is No! We all realize that not everyone is ready to jump headfirst into a new experience without testing the waters first! So no profile is required to join or attend the club, You will need to complete a membership application with your real information but know that this is never divulged to anyone, ever! Your privacy is paramount to us as well! However, a profile will help you make new friends quickly and will help you learn the ropes!
What is Sex in Swinging Like?
The actual sexual activity of swinging is varied. Though important, swinging is rarely centered around the orgasm but on the various pleasurable acts that lead to orgasm. Once on a bed, the participants will generally begin with kissing and caressing each other's bodies. Both the woman’s and man’s nipples are favorite places of fondling, sucking and gentle nibbling, followed by licking and kissing around the genital area, then the genitals directly. Most develop techniques they feel pleasure from their various partners. Sixty-nine or mutual oral-genital pleasuring is popular. Both partners may masturbate the other, and vibrators may be employed, especially in group swing scenes such as in the swing club’s group room. These activities may be intermixed with intercourse done in a variety of ways. Anal sex is popular with some swingers. Bisexual swinging is more common among women than among men although male-on-male is occasionally observed. The on-premise party offers a wide possibility of social interaction, selection, and potential of swinging with others in a foursome, threesome, one-on-one, or in a group scene. Bisexual as well as heterosexual swinging is possible, principally among women. And the club on-premises party offers this without pressure in a structured environment. Private, semi-private and group rooms are generally provided to meet the desires of virtually everyone. At colette, we practice consensual non-monogamy! That means you must have permission to play and no, you don't have to play if you don't want to!
Who the Swingers Are
People who swing come from all economic levels. Every job classification, all races and nationalities are represented, though the majority are middle to upper middle socio-economic class, and married. Swingers, married and single, tend to be adventuresome, emotionally mature and have excellent relationships with their mates and friends. Single people are involved in swinging but not to the extent of couples. Many single women have joined swing clubs, finding them a refreshing alternative to the traditional bar scene.
Couples in Swinging
Swinging is “the recreation” for couples whether they are married, committed (having an ongoing emotional commitment), living together (co-habituating, with or without an ongoing intimate relationship) or single couples who date. A study of swinging couples (McGinley, 1979) reported increased enjoyment and satisfaction in the relationships accompanied by a better understanding of self and mate, greater intimacy between the partners and a decrease in sex role-playing and sexist expectations.
Swinging enables a couple to explore sexual and social feelings and needs together, permitting a demystification of sex which allows sex to assume a place in the relationship unhindered by the standard ties to love, duty, sex roles and morals of others.
Women in Swinging
It is certainly an understatement to say that the role of women in our society has greatly changed over the past several decades. The humanistic and women’s movements have had an impact on sexuality also. The number of women choosing involvement in swinging during the past few years is remarkable. Sexual and social assertiveness on the part of women at swing parties and other swing activities is not only acceptable, it has come to be expected. To openly be oneself without fear of seeming unfeminine is a delightful experience for a woman and a welcome experience for a man. Swinging provides the environment to alter sex-role playing for both sexes, allowing men and women to participate with each other in a uniquely human experience.
Men in Swinging
Whether married, in a relationship or single, swinging can be a wonderful experience for a man. Not surprisingly, most women who are into swinging were introduced to the lifestyle by a man in their life. Also not surprisingly, many men would swing if only they could. They are hindered from the experience by their marriage, or if single, their inability to find a woman for a swinging partner. Of course, guilt feelings about sex and pleasure, and sex roles, also hinder men from swinging.
Men are not the macho, always ready, self-reliant persons of fiction. They are as human as their female counterparts. They experience loneliness and fear and rejection. A man, on convincing his wife to try swinging, may experience unexpected jealousy and a feeling of loss when she walks hand in hand, partially nude and obviously excited, toward a bedroom with another towel-clad man. He had fantasized about swinging but had not comprehended the reality of his wife or mate swinging.
As with women, the experience of swinging can be growth-producing for a man. It alters forever traditional concepts of man-woman relationships with sexist overtones. Through swinging, a man can experience a great deal of pleasure.
Where Can I Get More Information
On the first Friday of the month, our Newbie Night is a good way to learn a few things and have your questions answered. But, without a doubt, the best resource we have ever come across is a book written by Terry Gould called THE LIFESTYLE: A LOOK AT THE EROTIC RITES OF SWINGERS. Used copies are available on Amazon.
